“请你谈谈你自己”
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面试中必会被问到的问题之一就是“请你谈谈你自己”。很多人对这个问题的.回答就是简略的背一下简历。事实上这样的回答枯燥无味。那么，该怎样回答这个问题呢？
whenyou，asajobseeker，areaskedthemostcommon，andtoughest，interviewquestion，“tellmeaboutyourself，“youranswercanmakeorbreakyouasacandidate。usuallyjobseekerswillrespondwiththeir“30secondcommercial，“andthenelaborateontheirbackground。whilealmosteverycareerbookandcareercounselorwilltellyouthatistheappropriateresponse，itotallydisagree。
manypeoplefailintheirjobsearchbecausetheyaretoooftenfocusedonwhattheywantinajobincludingindustry，typeofposition，location，income，benefits，andworkenvironment。their“30secondcommercial“iscenteredaroundthispremise。thecommercialdescribesthejobseeker’scareerhistoryandwhattheyarelookingfor。toooften，thisisindirectcontrasttowhatemployersarelookingfor。
therearetwodominantreasonswhyjobseekersaresuccessfulinthejobsearch。thefirstisfocusingontheneedsoftheorganization。thesecondisfocusingontheneedsofthepeoplewithinthatorganization。inthisarticle，wearegoingtoexaminehowtofocusontheneedsofthepeoplewithinorganizations。thiswillassistinrethinkingyourresponsetothatall－importantquestion，“tellmeaboutyourself。“
inordertolearnhowtorespondtotheneedsoftheinterviewer，let’sfirstlearnmoreaboutourselves。wecanthenapplythatknowledgeaboutourselvestoknowinghowtounderstandandrespondtotheneedsofothers。
mostsocialpsychologistsrecognizefourbasicpersonalitystyles：analytical，amiable，expressive，anddriver。usually，eachofusexhibitspersonalitycharacteristicsuniquetooneofthestyles。however，wealsopossesscharacteristicstoalesserdegreeintheotherstyles。todetermineyouruniquestyle，youcantakeamyers－briggsassessmentorgotothefollowingsiteforafreekeirseytemperamentsorterassessmenttest：www。keirsey。com
herearethecharacteristicsthataremostcommonlyassociatedwitheachofthestyles：
positivetraits：precise，methodical，organized，rational，detailoriented
negativetraits：critical，formal，uncertain，judgmental，picky
positivetraits：cooperative，dependable，warm，listener，negotiator
negativetraits：undisciplined，dependent，submissive，overlycautious，conforming
positivetraits：enthusiastic，persuasive，outgoing，positive，communicator
negativetraits：egocentered，emotional，exploitive，opinionated，reacting
positivetraits：persistent，independent，decisionmaker，effective，strongwilled
negativetraits：aggressive，strict，intense，relentless，rigid
gaininganin－depthunderstandingofyourpersonalitystylehasenormousvalueinyourcareeraswellasyourpersonallife。however，ourfocustodayislearninghowtousethisknowledgetomakeyoumoresuccessfulinyourjobsearch。
onceyouhavelearnedaboutyourownstyleandhavestudiedtheotherstyles，iencourageyoutohavealittlefunintryingtodeterminethestylesofothers。whenyoumeetsomeoneforthefirsttime，trytoidentifyhisorherstylewithinthefirsttwominutes。youcanoftenidentifystylesbyobservingaperson’sdemeanor，conversation，bodylanguage，appearance，andpossessions。
todemonstratewhatimean，let’stakesomeexamplesfromthebusinessworld。whiletherearealwaysexceptions，generallyspeakingthestylesfittheexample。